September 18, 2018

How Solo Living Changed My Life


Most of my growing up years were spent in a lovely town, a special place in my heart. Spent most of the best moment of my life in this little town. The place where the friends I make from childhood and the memories I share.


25 years of friendship and still counting


But now I'm not living there. 12 years ago, I'm leaving my old life. Packing my bags, bring lots of books, and jumping cheerfully on the plane that would take me from Oil City to The City of Heroes for a new step. I was really excited to live far away from my parents for the first time. Breathe, eat, and sleep in the same dorm room every single day with 3 strangers. I thought everything would be fine. But I was wrong.


Every night, I try my hardest to fall asleep. The sound of roommates laughing late into the night, their music playing, or their dirty laundry scattering the floor, aaarrrggghhh... that's so disruptive my sleeping time. Uncomfortable dorm life. I feel like there's no home for me. The first year away is hard in so many ways :(




So in the second year, I decided to move to a single-big room in a new place. I have complete control over my life. I also have the freedom to be alone. But a new problem arise ; I can't wash my own clothes and I don't know what to do that. I can't cook, I never went to the traditional market, I don't know how to keep my room neat and clean, I can't drive a car, and I didn't know how to take public transportation. At the dorm ? Simple, I paid someone to do all of that, lol. At my parent's home ? I never contributing significantly in the household work :(


In the new place, I got tired of feeling that I'm always dependent on someone. They are not always be there to help me for some time. Maybe it's oke if I still lived at my parent's home, but now I'm living far away from them. I realized I have to change. I had to know how do laundry, how to keep my room neat and clean, how to going anywhere with 'angkot', how to going on holiday alone.


Proud of myself, few years after that, I ride a bus for daily struggle in to work, lol. It's not easy but I can get through the struggle and being a pro after few months, lol. We just need to be brave...


I always miss my hometown. I always miss my childhood friends. But solo living was one of the best things I've ever done for myself. Thanks to my parents ! At least, after married, I know how to live in Solo without household personal assistant, lol. I know how to commute going to Mall for lunch dates with my friend, lol. Even sometimes I'm having a bad day with the chores around the house, I'm being able to take care of everything by myself. I'm consistently letting my dad know how the days I went trough and text every single of my childhood friend as often as possible.


Yeah... Solo living isn't always easy for me but it teaches me a lot. I'm stronger than I think, lol. I now appreciate and really grateful how solo living changed my life :)